Aquarius deserves our reputation

"I hate air signs." -a Cancer.

I was going through old files and I happened upon some old notes that I've kept. In going over them, I discovered that some of my dim memories of certain situations from my past were inaccurate: the incidents were way worse than I recalled.

"Oh shit, he actually said that???"

A couple of years ago, I made a list of the people in my life with Aquarius moons. It was a long list. Aquarius moons or moon-Uranus interactions run in my family, for one thing. But there were more Aquarius moons than the chance amount. Since today's apparently the day I am firing shots, let me fill you in on the dark side of Aquarius, specifically the dark side of the nicer planets like the moon and Venus: they can turn their feelings off and go stone cold on you. So a lot of those shitty memories were me writing down what some of these Aquarius moons had said or done to me when they'd decided to turn their feelings off in my direction, so that I'd remember when they inevitably came back all nice, having switched the moon (and their humanity) back on. This isn't some "he loves me/he loves me not" shit, either, it's more "he loves me/I'm dead to him." I cannot put too much emphasis on "stone cold."

As an Aquarius sun, I take no pleasure in telling you about this. As an Aquarius sun from a Uranian family, of course I'm going to attract Aquarius moons: Aquarius moons feel comfortable (a moon concept) with what I naturally am (sun). I will bat around ideas and concepts all the live-long day: try me, let's go. But also as an Aquarius sun, I understand why the Aquarius moon and Veni do this shit: they get butthurt about something and then find a principle to use to justify a counterattack. In more than three cases, what I had done wrong was utter a single sentence that didn't align with a particular principle they had. Another thing to note: the moon and Venus are not rational planets, but they will usually look and sound completely rational...and very cold. Except it's (usually) irrational, and if you listen closely it's rapid-fire nonsense. Oh, and they'll be STUBBORN if you try to hash it out with them. (Aquarius is a fixed sign.) If they turn off their feelings toward you, as much as it sucks, just get lost.

Wouldn't it be nice to be able to turn your feelings off, especially if you have a hyperactive and sensitive moon situation? God, I would enjoy a couple of days' vacation from having moon-Neptune. Incidentally, I've found that those of us with moon-Neptune tend to forget unpleasant things as a defense mechanism, so if I tell you I don't remember something, I probably didn't enjoy it much. But anyway, that's why I keep these notes, because my "I can't stay mad at you"s are because my moon won't let me, so sometimes i have to go back and check the files to see how bad the infraction was. If you have similar problems, write that shit down before it falls out of your head! Anyway, Aquarius moons can, do, and will turn off, and it's weird and sometimes downright scary to witness. It doesn't even matter what triggers them because all moons automatically react without thinking, so even if we all put our heads together and give our best guesses as to why the Aquarius-energy-haver did whatever it did, we probably wouldn't be correct. Because my sun spent a *lot* of time in "what did I do?" land, going over all possible reasons and rationalizations for some unbelievable shit. In the case of those single sentences, I've turned them over again and again in my head trying to figure out why those combination of words set these people off so badly. A waste of time, obviously.

Again, as an Aquarius sun, I have to point the finger back at myself. I do understand Principle Above All, which is simultaneously an Aquarius strength and an Aquarius problem, and the unyielding devotion to an ideology (because it's a fixed sign) is responsible for...well, Cancers who hate us. The worst day for an Aquarius is the day that they discover that they followed all the "rules" and didn't get the right outcome. "But I thought this through!"

"...but you didn't take other people into account, did you?" (Because you stepped on the feelings of like 11 different people who won't talk to you anymore.)

I also found the list of excuses that I inevitably got after an emotional bloodbath, which is why I kept those records in the first place, because no human being should ever be that cold to another one. But all too often, they are. You don't have to look very far to find examples. I *really* don't, but I'm sure you can name a few yourself.

Okay, okay, not ALL Aquarius (whatevers). Maybe just the ones I know (and knew). You know which ones I forgave faster (if I did) after it took them forever to come around, because they're STUBBORN? The ones who said there wasn't an excuse for what they said or did. The rationalizers can stay rationalizing and Aquarius moons can consider this friendly fire. Cut that shit out and do better.

The following is a quote I found that seems to sum up the dark side of Pluto in Aquarius so far, which is not what I'm writing about today, obviously, but I also don't want to anytime soon so here ya go:

The year 2025 has thus far been dominated by people who hold obscene amounts of power over vulnerable groups, and who abuse their power for money in the cruelest and stupidest ways. These people are enabled by their ostensible opponents, who throw up their hands, ask what they could have possibly done, and leave it to the courts to figure out. 

- Jessica Winter, the New Yorker, April 10, 2025