Aries/Libra

One of the more amusing things about people with a lot of Libra energy is trying to identify whether or how they participated in a given situation. In Aries world, which is the opposite of Libra Land (and astrology is about polarity, so you can learn a lot from studying the opposite sign), people suffer from main character syndrome, so when they tell stories, sometimes you get surprised later with additional details, including that there were other people present. But Libra Land has a whole lot of quick "I don't know how this happened!" (Mainly because you went along with it, guys.) Sometimes their stories are so centered on the other people, you wonder whether they were just a fly on the wall. "Somehow we wound up in St. Louis." Somehow? Randomly? Really?

Admittedly, some of this is because Libra energy is a fan of joining things and often defers their preferences to suit your needs. This can be useful unless you're trying to finalize a dinner order and they won't render a final decision...AND you're hungry. Waffling, waffling, more waffling..."Maybe we should HAVE waffles? Wait, why are you angry?" If you know, you know.

One of the main reasons Libra goes along with things is to be nice and preserve the peace. This isn't bad, necessarily. If you need a hostage negotiator, try someone with a lot of Libra. One of the better creative bargainers I know has a Jupiter-Uranus conjunction in Libra, and Jupiter-Uranus conjunctions (often) give you random ideas, so this energy in Libra Land identifies creative solutions that work for everyone. It's a unique talent. It's fun to watch those wheels turning sometimes just to see what comes out, but, naturally, when you have an innate talent or gift like this, it's difficult to understand why everyone else can't do it.

Then there's the problem with anger. Unless there are mitigating circumstances, Libra is one of the signs that is least likely to be comfortable being angry, because anger does not feel very nice, and they like to be nice. It takes them half an hour of circling a topic that upsets them, presenting the evidence for why they have every reason to be upset, yet they're still smiling at you and listing redeeming qualities or mitigating factors. Meanwhile, Aries calls you and leads with "___ is an ASSHOLE!" (And you wonder whatever happened to "Hello, ____ is an ASSHOLE!" as you hold the phone a foot from your ear). Libra, on the other hand, will do just about anything other than admit they are mad. Watch them contort themselves into pretzels to avoid such negativity.

This guy is an Aries (he came to mind for this article and then I looked up his birth date and YEP):

Unsurprisingly, Libras have a really difficult time admitting they don't like someone. I can think of several stories where someone with Libra energy got screwed over by a person and then months later, they were back to being friends again, as though all the negativity had been erased. In one case, the untrustworthy person had a history of lying to faces (theirs, mine, everyone's) about almost anything, but the untrustworthy person and the Libra had developed "such a good rapport lately" so when there was another (inevitable) screwing over, the Libra expressed dismay. I pointed out the consistent track record and got shrugged off. Meanwhile, this same untrustworthy person is on Aries's list of top 5 least favorite people permanently. Also, Aries has a top 5 list of people they dislike, and has no problem telling you all about their list. You barely need to ask.

Libra's an air sign, so one workaround is thinking about how they would feel if a given bad situation or behavior of an unsavory person was happening to someone they cared about, rather than themselves. That might help a Libra get more of a spine (no offense, guys). Though I do find that Libra standing up for themselves tends to look like an unsolicited list of everything nice they've ever done for you that has gone unappreciated, and how dare you not appreciate them(!). Aries would just yell "YOU SUCK!"

If anyone wants to put together assertiveness training for Libras, it could be a gold mine. ...Or it could wind up a comedy sketch of a group of Libras straining to excuse deplorable behaviors.

I skew Aries (though I do not have a top 5 list), so I’ll just put this here: