Married during Saturn times: doomed?

Another very good question from a reader: should you worry if you got married during a Saturn transit?

Saturn, as you are no doubt aware by now, is the signifier of boundaries, limits, maturity, goals, and real-world consequences. I actually don’t think any planet loves commitment more than Saturn, if Saturn had feelings (you might suspect Jupiter and Venus love commitment but really they’re all about parties).

The actual question I was asked was whether the person should worry if they got married during their Saturn return (translation: sky Saturn around where birth Saturn is, degree-wise) but before the exact aspect. But I broadened it. Because a LOT of people get married during Saturn transits. Like, a lot. If you’re married, maybe you did.

Folklore tells us that someone with a Saturn-Venus aspect or Saturn in the 7th house is doomed to divorce if you get married before your Saturn return. I am here to tell you that the folklore is 100% true, so visit your lawyer today if you fall into that category and get divorced on the grounds of Saturnian mistakes.

Actually, the reason for this is that human, fallible people tend to give the appearance of working hard wherever Saturn is in their chart rather than actually doing the work they’re supposed to be doing. Think about your own Saturn placement and then think about whether you may be guilty of talking a big game in the relevant departments but maybe not putting your money where your mouth is. Unless you’re the bastion of maturity, of course. Then no one is going to ask you to verify anything. So people with Saturn-Venus aspects (including Saturn in the 7th, or Cancer rising who have Capricorn on the descendent) tend to get married later than normal people, or they don’t get married at all, or they marry someone with a significant age difference, or someone who is kind of a burden to them somehow, because Saturn requires you take on responsibility when it’s a factor. …Or they get married young without realizing what a lifelong commitment to someone really means and then they get divorced or (worse) tough it out in some form of misery for a very long time.

You might wonder what it looks like when you get married but shirk 7th house responsibilities. Well, I’ll tell you. It might look more like a roommates with the same last name situation. You might be happy you’re saving money on housing as a primary motivator. You might be afraid of being alone, perceiving it as the only other option you might have. You might go along with whatever the other person wants even if it’s not really what you want, and be afraid to say no or make waves. You might do what’s expected of you rather than what’s authentic. You might be lonely because of that.

So my opinion: if you got married understanding the true meaning of “in sickness and in health, etc.”, you’re good. If you’re someone who is willing to do what it takes to be a true partner to another person, you’re good. If you got married not really thinking about those things, you’re going to have a steep learning curve regardless of what’s in your birth chart.

Also my opinion: don’t ever get married during a *harsh* NEPTUNE transit (conjunction, square, or opposition to sun, moon, Mercury, Venus, or Mars), because those are times you’re blindly wandering into things without considering the ramifications. A great example of this is Meghan Markle, who met Prince Harry when Neptune opposed her Venus. Neptune moved on and her situation became very, very *real.* (I didn't say they shouldn't be married, I'm just saying commitments during Neptune times are not encouraged because you're not clearly seeing reality by definition and through no fault of your own.)

And for the nitpicky: if you’re a Saturn/Venus aspect person and Saturn was in your Saturn sign but the aspect wasn’t exact yet, and you got married, the only red flag in my mind is if you had almost immediate regrets about your marriage. If that didn’t happen, you’re good. Saturn is a lot of things, but it’s not subtle.