"Obsessed with me"

I have a friend I check in with every year or so, and we have long-ass conversations and then go our merry ways until the next ridiculously long conversation. Yesterday's clocked in at 6 hours. Last year, when I looked at his chart, I noticed that Neptune would be opposing the ruler of his 7th house. He is single. So the traditional reading of Neptune interfering with the planetary significator of your love life (the ruler of either your 5th or 7th house), or transiting your 7th house is uncertainty in this realm. That's true if you're single or married. If you're single, you'll likely meet someone who infuses uncertainty into this area of your life, or someone you already know will change roles, like friend to lover or lover to friend or Uber driver to matchmaker. If you're married, the most frequent interpretation (for Neptune, specifically) is that your significant other is unavailable to you. They could be deployed or really busy at work or with childcare or a sick relative, etc. A less typical but still prevalent interpretation would be a third party gets involved in your relationship. But leave room for creativity, sky-wise, which rarely fails to disappoint me, and I like a good plot line.

So here's what happened: he met someone. They dated briefly. They broke up. And she became obsessed with him. She told their mutual friends that they are still dating, even now, almost a year later. He cannot get her to go away, meanwhile he has to combat the rumor that she is his girlfriend. (Neptune is big on misunderstandings and deception. With a Pluto transit, obsessions get intense and stalker-y. With Neptune, there's rumors and bonkers behavior. Both feel out of control, but Pluto is threatening and Neptune is just confusing.)

Of course, that's his side of the story, and I believe him, but I'm not an objective third party. I'm a secondhand story-listener and a captive audience.

This is also a perfect opportunity to talk about different types of transits:

• conjunctions mean you're initiating action

• squares are something that just sort of happens to you, which seems to be no one's fault

• oppositions seem like it's a specific other person taking action, usually against you

So if I'm standing across from you, pelting you with oranges, that's an opposition. If we're standing together and a crate of oranges falls on both of us, that's a square. If I purchase an absurdly large crate of oranges and get in them like it's some sort of squishy, sticky ball pit, that's a conjunction (in my chart, not yours). If you come in and start lecturing me while I'm happily standing in my ball pit crate of oranges, that's an opposition again, and I'll probably throw one at you.

Oppositions and 7th house transits always seem like it's someone else doing the thing that's bothering you. One thing I have learned about dealing with energy is you never have to try very hard to find someone to play out oppositional energy. The universe will put out a casting call on your behalf. Someone will find you. My advice is to get to know a lot of people to widen the pool, otherwise it becomes random people, like your Uber driver, so the 20 minute relationship of passenger-driver could become something more long-term, and no one really wants an Uber driver becoming obsessed with you, right? Or maybe that's just me.

With oppositions, you have to sift through the event that really seems like it's caused by someone else and find the lesson for yourself. With my friend's Neptune transit, he's starting to re-think how he approaches people he wants to date, since this situation is somewhat publicly embarrassing for him. Probably a good idea.