When disowning your moon goes wrong

This might wind up being a combination of social commentary and astrology, so we'll see where I land with it. There's currently a social uprising among women, and I'm not clear on exactly how big it is, but the gist of it is that straight women are sick of feeling used to meet men's various needs and not feeling they get much in return, so they're divorcing, choosing not to date, choosing celibacy, and taking to social media and yelling about it. At the same time, there are articles about very lonely men or men who are angry at women for not giving them what they want. And then...there's Andrew Tate, but I'd rather not go there.

Subject change but I'm going somewhere with this: if you pick up astrology books from the 1800s or before, you'll find a few specific delineations that you don't see in modern times, namely that a woman's sun determines the type of husband she should/will have. Modern astrology media of any type will talk about living and owning your sun and won't say anything at all about your gender identity. I don't think there are many women out there who would enjoy being told that because they have a Virgo sun, they should find a fastidious man to achieve fulfillment. There is some lore about the aspects a woman's sun makes lining up with potential marriage partners in modern stuff (which I use, for the record), but that's all you'll find. This coincided with women finding their purpose and meaning outside of home and family (moon things) and in life goals, career, social participation, etc. (sun things).

So you can imagine that the reverse would be true, and it is, which is that a man's moon sign lines up with the type of wife he should/will have, as well as what his mother was like (the moon is our mother regardless of gender, but I'm focusing here), but this idea hasn't really gone away, and you can still find it in books. This is what I think we're seeing a lot of right now: men not owning their moons. Regardless of who you are, any energy in your own chart that you disown will need to be located in another person, because that energy is going to express, somehow. It just WILL. There's no stopping it.

The moon is yin energy, meaning it's receptive rather than action-oriented. It's nurturing. It's concerned with food, care, comfort, home and hearth. So if you grow up with someone who has very loud lunar energy and expressed the moon for you, you don't learn to express it yourself. Then once you're out of the nest, you either figure out how to do your own laundry or you find someone to do it for you. So the cadre of angry women is right: they've encountered men who have disowned their moons and the women were assigned the role of "moon." It's tedious to be shoved into a box like that. It's a very big, very good example of disowned energy.

Disowned energy happens all the time, not just with moons*. When you find yourself asking questions like "why are all my bosses drug-addicted egomaniacs?" or "why do I only seem to be able to date people who are obsessed with cats?" or ... I don't know, insert your own phrase here: that's disowned energy if you're meeting it again and again like a bad rerun. Look at your chart, have a reading, or find a different way to get some perspective and learn to own that energy yourself so you will stop meeting it in others. This part actually isn't hard at all, you just have to be willing to work on it.

Back to moons: most people do not like their own moon sign. The moon is also where we're weak and vulnerable, and its sign and location tells you what you need to do to feel secure and okay about yourself, and often those things are tedious because they are more NEEDS than wants. (Venus is the one that desires. The moon NEEDS.) The moon is like the small child in the backseat announcing their bladder's full the instant you get on the highway. So anyone with a disowned moon feels they NEED another person in order to function and will react with overwhelming emotion if the person they've projected their needs on bails.

It's a nuanced issue, but that's my hypothesis. I welcome debate 🤓

*If you’d like further reading on this concept, check out The Development of Personality by Liz Greene and Howard Sasportas. It’s mostly theory but it’s still a good read.